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Indian Men...
                             - David Anttony

For credibility, everything in India must be attested by the western world. We even got a fair skinned westerner to write an article! - Ed

Indian men are quite unique. As a Western born European my perspective is obviously coloured by my own male culture and as such I find Indian men very interesting. Many of the men I met in India had childlike qualities and were quite playful which is wonderful to see in men. The way they interacted with their male friends was fascinating showing physical closeness and intimacy.

In a Western society this kind of behaviour would be misunderstood and the men's sexual orientation would be under question. In India, I am pleased to say, men allow themselves to express intimacy with their male friends. The most obvious reason for this is that men in India are discouraged from connecting with women and expressing intimacy in public. This I feel brings in the shadow side of male-to-male intimacy, in that I often experienced males interaction with women in negative ways.

Males in India obviously hold a lot of repressed sexual feelings and because Indian society does not allow a natural expression of their sexuality when men interact with women they are often childish and sometimes quite disrespectful. When I travelled with my wife in India, when she was with me, we would not experience any problems. As soon as my wife was on her own men would constantly hassle her, try to touch her and make a general nuisance of themselves.

The cultural division between the sexes in India may well be to blame for a lot of the shadow behaviour men express towards women but may be Indian men just have to grow up in that department.

Overall I take my hat of to Indian men for allowing themselves to express their innate childlike and fun natures and for giving themselves permission to have close friendships with other men which as a Western man I don't often have the opportunity to experience without having to face the fears of our societies ideas about male to male intimacy.

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